By Being Honest With Yourself, You Become a Worse Liar

When you look in the mirror, what do you see? I’ll tell you what I see.

I see someone who is not good enough. I see someone that could be so much more. I see failure. I see someone who could be a better Christian, man, brother, son, friend, lover, writer, funeral director, etc. I see flaws. I see… a real human being.

Now, I also see someone with potential. I see someone who is still standing, when he shouldn’t be. I see someone with his health and freedom. I see someone who has advantages that most in the world do not. I see someone that is going to reach greatness.

I see humble, yet proud. I see the negatives, and the positives. I see… Noah Watry, for all he is, and what he is not. This momentary glance in the mirror is the start of my morning. Every morning. It is the way to peer into my own soul and set the tone for the day. “Am I going to get after it?” “Am I going to succumb to negativity?” These are important questions, because the response is a very self fulfilling prophecy action. 

If I think negatively to start the morning, then chances are, my day will not go well, regardless of what happens. If I think positively, I will have a great day, regardless of what happens.

I also think (and believe) that each one of us has the mental power to create what we think. If I really want to find a silver lining in anything that happens to me, then I can certainly find one. I can create great moments or learn from mistakes or bad luck moments throughout the day. We are our own authors of our story.

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The best way to combat negativity is to stay on the positivity course. Kill them with kindness, is the old adage. Smile through the joke on yourself. Laugh when others cry. Take the time to breathe and relax, instead of tensing up and worrying. Assess the situation, and think logically, not with your heart. Your mind will play tricks on you if you second guess yourself. 

By always doing what is right (and internally, we all know right from wrong), you become more honest with yourself. You tell yourself that you’re worth it. You tell yourself that by calling yourself out, you aren’t making excuses. By doing this, you become a worse liar. You weed out the negativity, slowly but surely. It’s almost like a cancer, in that the cure is through your own actions. You are essentially killing the lies, by combating them with honesty.

It covers everything in life. By being honest with your boss at work, it shows accountability. By being honest with your significant other, it builds trust between you two. By being honest with your friends and family, it breeds realness and not someone who is being fake. All of these actions will bring you more good than harm. Always be honest with yourself and others.

The next time you find yourself feeling down, or lazy or annoyed or just plain old pissed off; stop. Simply stop. Do the opposite. Take that extra breathe. Find that silver lining. Ask yourself what good will come from reacting negatively versus being positive. 

Now, I also understand this advice comes across as “easier said than done.” I also understand that I myself need to do this more and more. One of the reasons I always write about past mistakes or future goals or how to be a better person in life, is because I am calling myself out first and foremost. I write to… myself. When I write, I write to tell myself off. I write to motivate myself. 

Writing helps me to be more honest with myself, and less of a liar, to be the best version of Noah Watry I can be. Isn’t that what we should all want? 

What is it that you want? Let me know in the comments below!